You’ve noticed signs that your parent or other family member needs assistance at home, but the thought of discussing it with them is upsetting and distressing.
When is the best time to talk about home care assistance? How do you talk about it without hurting them? Is it even possible to have a positive discussion about it?
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Home Care Discussion Tips
- Start talking with your loved one now. You will have more time, more options and a better chance of helping them to stay at home if you address issues before they become serious problems. Your loved one may also avoid pain, limitations, and hospital admissions by getting home care help now.
- Ask questions and listen. Share what you have observed and ask questions about what they think is causing problems and what they suggest for solutions. Listening is important, as older loved ones often feel cornered in these conversations and may become defensive if their opinions are ignored.
- Talk as you would to any other adult. Do not patronize or speak to them like they’re children. Approach them as equals, with respect and consideration, and you will get a much better response. You need your parents to work with you to find solutions.
- Emphasize your desire to help your loved one stay independent. What older adults fear most is losing their independence. If they know you want to help them maintain their independence, they will be more likely to participate in finding a solution.
- Provide reassurance and speak with compassion. Let your loved one know that you will still be around and that seeking home care assistance is not an attempt to replace your relationship. Home care assistance can ease the pressure on the whole family, which could help make it easier to enjoy one another’s time, rather than worrying over home chores and safety concerns.